TIPS FOR BEING “THE GUY”
By Katarzyna Sprengel
Awesomeness doesn’t go along with average. What does that mean?
This means you need to stand out from the crowd of the lame dudes that create a traffic jam and keep blocking you away from the relationship you want!
How to do it? Here are some tips.
Tip no 1
Don’t text – call instead! I cannot stress how important this tip is. A woman will find it intriguing if you show that you actually want to talk (like t a l k) to her. Messaging can get a tad tedious and boring. By the way, everyone is texting today. Sometimes it causes misunderstandings – spare yourself this trouble. And don’t forget that it is much harder to reject that offer to get a drink over the phone!
Don’t be afraid to be a bit of an old-school gentleman! It will make your lady 100% fascinated.
Tip no 2
Your exclusive attention is the key to making anyone, and especially women, feel truly special. This is a definite NO to scrolling down your Facebook, checking Instagram likes or opening snapchats while having a conversation with a lady who could possibly conquer your heart. You won’t conquer hers if instead of manifesting love to her, you will appear too preoccupied with your virtual tete-a-tete.
So…Listen! Leave staring at her boobs for later. Please.
Tip no 3
Is she suddenly being unresponsive? No fear! Women, as surprising as it can be, are still human-beings and have the same psychological mechanisms as males – we ALL want to be chased, wanted and admired. And it’s totally okay to take advantage of this.
Now, imagine this scenario: you have sent her a dozen text messages, stalked her Instagram account and even resorted to DM-ing her there (because maybe, MAYBE, she lost her phone…). Alas, the silence that ensued still ensues. Take a deep breath and STOP communicating with her. Like, at all. Wait a couple of days and see what happens. Most likely she will think: “Oh, what happened to this guy? He seemed really interested…Maybe I should shoot Women don’t respond well to male species who constantly remind us they exist. So, just don’t do it.
Tip no 4
Be open-minded enough to learn and get feedback! Typically, guys fall into two categories: either they have no opinions (which is ultra-unattractive), or they are obnoxiously over-opinionated. A strong man can acknowledge he is wrong and will let someone prove him wrong. Isn’t that sexy, uncommon and mature as hell?
Let her get a word in and don’t be a condescending asshole.
REMEMBER! Hold yourself to a higher standard, be a tad different and know the difference between being nice and too nice.
You deserve awesomeness.